We could be twins, I am a bit taller and a bit lighter, but darn close enough.

I have been studying this exact same question for months now.

Honestly what I have found is really any of the frames are going to support our weight. If you are really looking for a racing cross frame, and not a cross like frame (cross check, tricross, etc) then the field is wide open.

I don't ever intend to race and the ability to have a rear rack and fenders are important to me, so I am looking more in the lines of a tri cross, or a trek ion, or one of the carbon frames from pedal power (more than like.y how I go).

Depending on your budget I have heard great things about the Ridley frames and the Stevens frames...but their frames cost more than I want my entire bike to cost.

Its true some of the manufactures do stop at 59 in cross bikes and some go to 61, but in a race bike, I think it's designd that way in purpose (higher bb and shorter top tub etc)

Good luck and let us know what you end up with.