So, this is the 20,000 post!!!
I'm getting close, as you can tell by the post count.
My only advice is that time is a great healer, helped along with whatever resources one might find, such as someone to talk things through.
As I am going through my 70's, I am riding more and more and more simply for the pleasure of being out in the open/nature, enjoying the little things - this morning the wife and I went for a 7 am ride - the birds wre singing wonderfully, there were some friendly folks and we chatted, my LBS guy passed us and as he passed we chatted a bit, I let the wife lead and followed at a very low speed.
We didn't go very far, nor did we care how far or how fast we went.
We just enjoyed the ride for what it was worth. A relaxing time together. Lot's of folks - as I read the obituaries - no longer have those times. I don't want to miss out on them.
FWIW