Originally Posted by
alan s
In case you failed to notice, the OP is seeking solutions/suggestions, which is exactly what he is getting.
And the wife is undoubtedly getting validation from whatever social network she's hooked into.
If doing a threat assessment and then taking steps to reduce those threats is trivializing and she is unable or unwilling to comprehend that said precautions were done in part to allay her fears... they've got bigger issues that is beyond the scope of my experience and knowledge.