The pain that you and your family are experiencing simply means that you have genuinely loving hearts are deeply concerned about the well being of other people. Who could take offense to that. People with cold hearts don't cry. When I ride the roadways, I keep trying to convince myself that all the motorists passing me are operated by a driver with the amount of love and concern that your family obviously has.
On occasion, there is that rare moment when I have to experience the cold hearted, non-feeling, laugh-if-you-get-hurt type of people. These types are clearly distinguishable from the class that your family truly represents. My condolences for your loss. Prayers to all.

d.tipton