.. I'd like to get the 165 and use 2cm or so of spacers
Spacers, particularly at that height, are a thing of threadless forks & headsets. I don't think I've ever seen such a spacer stack on a threaded fork. Maybe 2-4 mm worth of washers to allow for future headset replacements.
Also, while you
can fit spacers between top race and lockring, the top race
has to thread all the way down to the head tube.
Will crown race + bearing balls + lower cup + upper cup + bearing balls really eat up 18 mm?