I have this argument all the time with friends and family. There seem to be two ways of going through a red light. One, which I try to do, makes sure the coast is clear and that I won't interfere with anyone, and I slowly go through it. The other way is to blow through the light forcing pedestrians and vehicles with the light to avoid hitting you. I don't do that.
Let's be honest about this. Cars will always speed and roll through stop signs. Bikes will run red lights wherever possible. And pedestrians will cross streets whenever and wherever they feel like doing so. That's the report from NYC.