Your weight should be on your "sit bones", not your crotch. To get your weight back onto your sit bones:

1. Get a saddle that is "dead flat" from side to side, and flat from front to back.

2. Get a saddle that is firmly padded, so that your sit bones don't sink into the padding, putting weight on your crotch.

3. Get a saddle that has a wide "cut-out" between the sit bone area.

The saddles that consistently combine those three features are the Specialized Body Geometry saddles. Get a version that is as wide as your rear, not one of those skinny models the "pretend racers" use in their endlessly silly attempts to "be like Lance".

Most importantly, your hands need to be as high as the top of your saddle. That allows your pelvis to be upright, with the pressure on your sit bones, where it belongs. If your hands are postioned two or three inches below the top surface of the saddle, that will tilt your pelvis forward, putting pressure on your crotch.

The "boy racers" will inform you that raising the bars to the height of the saddle might cut your time in a one hour time trial by eight or ten seconds. Do you plan on entering any time trials soon? If you are comfortable, you will ride more miles, and feel better AFTER a ride than before a ride. THAT beats saving "eight seconds" in a time trial.