I'm sorry for your struggle with anorexia. But just as you assert that the men cannot understand what the right weight for a woman is, you cannot know what the is the right weight for me, in my situation. You have no clue of my frame size, muscle mass, body fat, anything. And to say that I must be "on something" is ludicrous.
I've been at this weight for about 3 years, and apparently my body is functioning just fine. None of the multiple doctors involved in my care have even suggested that I might be anorexic. The only meds I take are those to manage my cardiac issues and maintenance drugs for bipolar disorder, and those drugs tend to make people gain weight. No, my psychiatrist does not think I'm anorexic either, and he's been treating me for 8 years.
Oops...was supposed to quote blueduckxx above