Originally Posted by
RecceDG
Speaking as a military dude - if this is an extended deployment (and not a just a 2 week course thing), and you aren't exclusive and committed yet, then do a "friendly breakup" before he leaves. Something like "I like you and this has been fun but it's too soon for me to commit to being exclusive if you are going to be gone for a while. We can stay friends and if we're still available when you get back we can pick up where we left off, but let's put the gf/bf thing aside for a while".
Don't be the chick that Dear Johns a guy while he is deployed. That really sucks. So does being stuck in a relationship that has fizzled out just because you don't want to be the chick that Dear Johns a guy while he is deployed. Better for everyone to take an official break and stay friends.
DG
My ex-husband was military and gone most of our marriage, so I'm used to it.
I do better on my own than most people, I guess. He's gone a few weeks here and there and then for 2 months in February. He told me that one of his fears was me dumping him because he leaves, and that's not something I'd do. I've got no problem sticking by him and supporting him while he's gone.
I made cookies for the pilots this time.