Hey Bikebreak, I feel your toe pain. I'm pretty much in exactly the saem place as you, been wearing VFF for a couple of years and my already wide feet, have spread even more. What I have been wearing for winter shoes and now for bike commuting is Merrell's barefoot shoe. They have a whole line of them, but because of my "Flintstone" feet, I got the Trail Glove Wide, which is fantastic. It's their only barefoot shoe offered in wide size, but it's great. It's about 90% mesh, so light weight, flexible, with a 5mm, no drop, Vibram sole.
Check them out.