As mentioned I got proper fit. Now after much reasearch last night I see proper fit may not be proper.
Apparently Bontrager wrote a piece a while back about the myth of having a plumb line from your knee to pedal spindle. Something to do with losing power in this position. Yet whenever I read about proper fit the mantra is a plumb line from knee to pedal.
http://sheldonbrown.com/kops.html
So maybe all this textbook fitting is not the best way to go.
RE; my numbhands, I imagine ading a spacerto the stem would raise me up a bit and take pressure off hands as would moving seat forward.
I will consult with my LBS.