Your problem is probably related to the fact that your shoes are not wide enough. We still have the stupid problem that most cycling shoes are too narrow for American feet.

Try what I do. Before I pull the laces up and tie them, clear at the bottom I pull the laces loose enough that I can slip my fingers under them. Then I pull the laces up moderately tight and tie them. This lets the shoe relax over your instep. This works for me.

The real solution is to get shoes that are wide enough in the first place. Shoe mfg need to make shoes available in E and double E widths that actually fit right.