realistic expectations???

*You probably wont find your perfect saddle on the first try or 3.

*No saddle feels like a sofa after a long ride unless maybe you get a 10 pound beach cruiser, spring loaded, gel insert, monstrosity.

* the fizik antares fits my sit bones well but not everyones butt is the same width.

*I think brooks are over-rated but the other 10,000 people who use them cant all be crazy.

*Bicycle shorts or padded undergarments work well, even though they look funny. Its not about the actual padding. Its all about 2 separate pieces of material sliding back and forth with a foam buffer between them to reduce friction.

* you probably wont find a cut and dry answer on BF. only opinions and personal preferences. Your best bet is a local shop that will let you try multiple saddles before purchasing one or a great return/exchange policy.

GOOD LUCK