I'm 6'1", but my 42cm handlebars feel way way wide. I measured my shoulders using acromion method and got a surprisingly narrow 35cm... which sounds crazy but when I get into the position I think would be the ideal my arms center to center are around about 35cm.

In looking around, the 36cm size is apparently for "small men and women"... and tough to find in anything but a shallow drop or the weird ergo thing... I don't want either. There are plenty 38cm bars with the right profile, I want to just go that route... but as I get down over my ruler those 2cm represent the difference between YES! and TOO WIDE! That is, its the difference between arms @ 90 degrees and arms flapped out in a similar but better than position to what I get stuck in on my 42 cm bars.

What can I do here? Deal with 38's or is there a road bar out there thats 36cm wide with a bend that is more like the 36cm track bars I keep seeing. I'd hate to buy something that isn't ideal.