If you're a commuter an prefer an upright position, you might address your problems with "cowhorn" bars, combined with a long extension. These move the hand position forward of the stem centerline by 3-4 inches, rather than even or back. Thet combined with a long, rising stem ie. 0° or a shallow angle turned upward will get your hands where you want them (or at least very close).

If you're also looking for a new bike or frame, go larger than you might otherwise might, since many frames proportion top tube lengths to the size. You might also find a longer top tube along with a higher head, in a sloping top tube hybrid.

BTW- try to do fitting experiments on your existing platform, preferably using used or borrowed parts, except maybe the handlebar, which you;re likely to stay with. That will let you dial in your needs before committing serious dollars.