I said "They must be experts" but I did not mean to say "they are" i forgot to add "sarcasm" sign to the end of my post. However, I agree with you, there is fitting and fitting. (I personally have mixed results from fitting)

But as you can see the thread is going in the wrong direction. Everyone is sharing their own experience, which has nothing to do with OP problem. For example, we can be the same height and weight, ride the same bicycle size, but you have wider shoulders, or shorter neck, so the bars that work for you will be completely wrong for me. (and here is another issue - how to measure the shoulders width or neck length )
That is why the OP must go back to his Retul buddy. Thought he may not be an expert-expert, but at least he can see OP in person and help him to figure out what is the problem.

All I know, when I ride, I should not to ask myself all the time: what is my bars size, or what it should be? If OP does, and he feels discomfort after several rides, then yes, he needs to make adjustments to his position. Maybe not to change bars, but turn them up or down, or move a seat forward/back, or I don't know what, I am not an expert