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Bikes: 1940s Fothergill, 1959 Allegro Special, 1963? Claud Butler Olympic Sprint, Lambert 'Clubman', 1974 Fuji "the Ace", 1976 Holdsworth 650b conversion rando bike, 1983 Trek 720 tourer, 1984 Counterpoint Opus II, 1993 Basso Gap, 2010 Downtube 8h, and...
It's not a question of finding the right stem; it's a question of changing your idea of what looks weird.
I see four choices:
1. Increase your flexibility so you can ride comfortably with a stem that doesn't look weird.
2. Set your bike up so you can ride it comfortably with your present level of flexibility, and persuade yourself the stem doesn't look weird.
3. Replace the frame with a bigger one, so the stem doesn't look weird.
4. Set the bike up so it looks right, and just don't ride it.