Ah, context.
If you have done some homework then asking specifics questions might deliver useful information. Just asking people to spew knowledge is usually a trademark of the privileged or the lazy.
Your situation makes you a time crunched cyclist. Asking mildly informed training questions within this context would be far more likely to yield useful information and meet less resistance.
Three young kids? You are already facing an uphill battle. I have one and it can be all consuming
Good luck.