Hold your horses man, you don't know me or my family. And that's exactly what I've done with my daughter and her vehicle, if she doesn't check the oil and coolant and change the oil regularly and the thing blows it is indeed on her. She's in college and I'm not helping her with that either, so I'm plenty mean enough. The college thing, my parents didn't help me a bit, I helped her by giving her a car and that was it, because today's generation of young adults expect everything to be handed to them without being grateful, that isn't happening in my house with my daughter, if I pay for her college it will mean nothing, I want her to earn it. She still doesn't check it the fluids or change the oil! I don't care nor do I ask.

I also have a mentally ill daughter, she tried to burn down our house with my wife in the house sleeping, I called the cops on her and filed charges for juvenile arson. I had three choices, I could have not filed charges as most parents do, or filed for adult charges on attempted murder, instead I decided to give her a break on the adult charges but press the juvenile charges so she could get some help and be out of our home for the rest of her life. The police chief agreed with my decision and was glad I pressed charges but was also glad I didn't go the adult route and screw up the rest of life. She was sent to a youth opportunity place where she's been for the last 2 years, she's now 19 years old (next month) and is getting released to a place in town that has care for the mentally handicap. If she does do something extreme again, then my hands are 100% off, she will be at the mercy of the adult court, I've explained that to her as well so she knows.

Neither of these girls are genetically related, the youngest one came out of Russia. Russia only releases kids they know that have a high risk factor of mental illness or have a current physical issue so they don't have to pay for the care of these kids, and then tell unsuspected wannabe parents that the kids are fine, about 80% of the kids coming out of Russia for adoption end up having severe mental illnesses. Remember the parents that sent their child back to Russia? The parents should not have done that, that kid has no hope of ever getting help in Russia and will eventually get killed. My daughter is getting treatment and is a lot more settled now since she was placed in the youth opportunity place and getting the right meds that the doctors here could not get right for years! Is she ready to move into a place by herself? that is the million dollar question.

My wife is just highly mechanically challenged, I check the fluids and do the oil changes etc because those cars are our cars so I don't bother her with that stuff. I think any good husband would do that for their wives unless their wife is a mechanic or highly mechanical and the husband is the mechanically challenge. I know a lot of husbands who are, I see them go into LBS's to have flats fixed, I see them on the side of the road with flats and I stop and have to show them how to fix a flat and these men are all thumbs, like teaching a 2 year old how to tie their shoes. I know there are guys here on this forum who don't know how to fix a flat. Does that make them lazy in all aspects of life, no; today's electronic world is producing a slew of people who don't have a clue about mechanical devices, and in fact so much so that there is a shortage of mechanics that is going to get worse as the years go by.

Until you've walked in my shoes as long as I have, don't try to be a 10 cent counselor.