Im not sure, because I think people perceive you differently than you do.
I have met 4 forumites over the years, and they were very pleasant meetings and very friendly. They appeared in real life, as they did in their postings.
Im very quiet, laid back and passive, but-- sometimes if I post in A&S, it doesnt convey that way
I dont know how my postings to other 50+ people appear, but if I offend in any way, it is not intended at all. This is one of the nicer forums on BF. Dont want to get excommunicated !