I'm like you,I was out of the saddle way too long . Took a ton of tweaking before I was anywhere near comfortable . I hated to do it,but I had to give up on my old leather saddle. I am now about 45 pounds lighter and don't have much for cushioning my butt anymore. Feels good to be lighter but this old body feels fragile. I'm toughening up slowly though. Glad you are sorting this out.