Originally Posted by Coluber42

As far as doing the support thing goes though, I can understand where she's coming from if she feels left out. Driving a support vehicle is a real sign of true love. You get to go ride around footloose and fancy free with your buddies, and she's just sort of hanging out in the car by herself. If you want it to be fun for her, find some fun activity she wants to do with her friends that you can plan a bike trip around. Then she goes out with her buddies and you go out with yours and you all meet in the middle.
Or you just treat the whole thing as her doing you and your buddies a major favor, and you find some way you can return the favor by facilitating some weekend trip she and her friends want to go on.
My partner crewed for me on the Furnace Creek 508 twice. That means following me on my bike for two days and nights cooped up in a van with no sleep when he'd really much rather be out on a bike himself. Yeah, he got to see the scenery too, but he sure as !@#$ didn't do it for the fun of it - he did it because his woman wanted to go out and do this crazy bike thing and he's a supportive and generous partner.
So take her willingness to support your trip as a generous gesture, and find a way to be equally supportive and generous with your own time.