Wow, did you ever see so many embarassed men?

Here's the story: EVERYONE has trouble finding the correct saddle for their particular build. Some have a little trouble and some like myself have a great deal of trouble at first.

You need to try various saddles until you find one that works for you. This might turn out to be a long search expensive or it might work on the first try. But there IS a saddle that can work for you so don't dismay.

The suggestions for the various women's sites aren't bad but you're hardly likely to find any better advice in practical terms.

Here's some saddles I'd recommend for a beginner woman:

Terry Butterfly (around $110)
Specialized Dolce (~$90)
Specialized Body Geometry Sport (~$60)
Selle San Marco Atola (~$80)

There are other saddles. Be aware that only 20% of women need "women's specific" saddles. Also understand that often the problem with a saddle is that it is too soft and squishes up and puts pressure in undesired locations. So a harder saddle actually works better though you might be sore until you harden up around your sit bones.

But a saddle is supposed to support your sit bones and not put pressure anywhere else. Having a sore butt around your sit bones will likely go away with practice but pain in your private areas most certainly will not and should NOT be tolerated since it can lead to all sorts of other problems.