I think, as for us men, you have to look for a saddle that is wide enough for your seatbones and not too soft. Women saddles should take care of the width because that's their primary difference with regular saddles. Some men saddles might work too as long as they are wide enough and relatively flat when watched from behind.
The Gel thing sounds very nice on paper but experience on long rides will prove the contrary. After a while the seatbones go through the gel that pushes upward and starts pressing on the soft tissues resulting in pain, numbness, and more annoying consequences.
The cutouts work well on hard saddles. If the saddle has gel the cutout will be clogged by the gel after a while.
Check the other links regarding saddle comfort, they have a lot of info and you help you. Make also sure that you have a good pair of shorts, a quality chamois makes a big difference.