[MENTION=348967]J.Oxley[/MENTION]- sounds like I'm built like your wife and reach is challenging for me too. Since I like to experiment with setups to get them dialed in, I like the Kalloy "Riser Quill Stem" - Universal Cycles -- Kalloy Riser Quill Stem

Inexpensive, readily available, silver and comes in 60-100 mm reach lengths. I have a pair of Soma "Oxford" handlebars which look similar to the ones pictured on the red bike you show. The beauty of these handlebars is they're meant for mountain brakes levers/shift levers (22.2) AND can take bar end shifter pods also (usually need bars that are 23.8 diameter for this). So it's the best of both worlds. Here's a link:

Universal Cycles -- Soma Oxford Bar

i realize you didn't ask about handlebars, but I saw that bike you showed and thought it might be an option.