I dropped out of college before the mandatory Psych 101 but even so I recognize a cry for help when I hear one. Traindriver is way too reflective and phlegmatic to really think his age is his first problem. Most of us but wives especially IMO hate paradigm shifts. I hesitate to speculate on anyones personal stuff but it sounds to me like the classic fear that hubby is out to improve himself out the door is behind the sabotage of his efforts at taking his cycling to the next level. From your wife's standpoint TD you have training heaven on earth already now you want even more time/distance from her and your children. Why? Is it escape? Medicating with lactic acid? Maybe you really just have the bug and honestly want to see how far you can go. Not unreasonable IMO other husbands have gotten much more than that with no problemo but you will need the support system behind you. Your first problem is really how to fix things at home. Do you guys have a day when you are both off together? If not, you should. Probably some counseling. Really, it's that serious. You are young enough that if this is the dynamic that is prevailing it can only get worse unless there is a conscious decision to move toward something more loving and supportive. Good luck.

H (divorced and better (and worse) for it.