I have a high vis vest, she bought me a high vis under armor running shirt (I love it), I have two rear flashers during the day (one solid at night), I add more in winter. I have one flashing front at day, it is solid at night, two in winter solid and flashing.

I had a road id. I downgraded when we moved to a pet tag with contact info (no medical issues or else I would wear it).

My sons rear mounted seat has a high vis vest attached.

I have to make sure she does not watch the news after dinner for general world anxiety. She assumes every cyclist accident is me. Though less so with my shorter/safer commute. I do not usually ride from Dec to Jan, inclusive, for her and me. Drivers here are idiots and I have a high sense of self preservation.

I also do not tell her about close calls. I tell her about the times I bailed due to stupidity. I do not tell her I ride on the bridge deck.

I call or text when I get to work and when I leave.

She thinks I ride aggressively. I just use road positioning as necessary, I find it hard to justify to her.

She also rides, but it is a much shorter commute (minutes). So I do not worry, except in the night when she has no lights. Then I get upset.