It doesn't look like you have an age issue nor a time issue. Instead, you have a marital issue. Probably many if I had to guess. Your wife does not sound very supportive. If she was truly interested in your happiness, she would be more supportive. I would tell her how important it is to you and see how she responds. I have a feeling it won't matter, but give it a go.

My wife makes sacrifices all of the time to allow me to ride. She even does her workout early (often as early as 3:30 AM) just so she gets home in time to watch kids and allow me to ride before work. She also takes the kids to school 3 days per week so i don't have to worry about being back early enough to take them.

The other 2 days i take them for her but i still get to ride usually, just not as long. Between spending money and taking time out for cycling, my wife could easliy get mad. She doesn't. I have told her how important it is too me and she wants me to be happy.

I also think i am a lot more pleasant to be around on days when i get to ride!