OK, this clears it up a bit. You have a thick-walled (American standard) 1" fork, and the correct stem for it. You don't have a problem at all, since the headset locknut has nothing to do with holding the stem. The stem holds by wedging into the fork. It's nice to have a closer fitting locknut to avoid the visible gap, but that's the only difference.
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