A couple of years ago, I bought a Windsor Hour. It was too big for me so I ordered a Kilo Frame from BikeIsland.com and used most of the parts from the Windsor on that frame, replacing a few pieces here and there with other brands, mostly low-end as it was my first time building. A few things I learned from that whole experience:

1. Get good tools. Seriously. Don't use some gas station fix-a-flat kit because you're just going to eff everything up. Buy the right tool for the job. So what if you're only going to use it once or twice? Wouldn't you rather use it once, get it right and have a great bike than to have to keep buying the same crap over and over again until you get it right with a bunch of crap tools you got free with purchase of a slushie at the 7/11?

2. Show some restraint and have a little patience. Tighten things down, check them. If they're a little loose, tighten them again. Get it all together, ride it around the block, see if anything is out of place or causing issues. If so, tighten it or adjust it or whatever and do it again. It's like shampoo: wash, rinse, repeat. Bikes are not passenger jets. You don't have to put 700lbs of torque on the bolts to get everything to stay put. If you're worried about things backing out or whatever, get a little bit of blue thread locker or something. I mean... I wouldn't personally use it on my stuff, but if you're terrified that things are going to come apart (which it sounds like you are since you've stripped every bolt on the bike at this point), put some of that on your bolts and tighten them down. DON'T USE RED or you'll need a torch to get it apart, and God only knows how much damage you'd do with a torch.

3. Get professional help. This works with bikes, marriages and personal issues. Today, we'll talk about bikes. If there's something you can't do, or can't figure out how to do, or if there's something you're doing that keeps going wrong, take your bike to a shop and let them do it. Throw the guys there $20 and they'll get you fixed up. They see it all the time. When I built my Kilo TT frame up with the Windsor parts, I took it to a bike shop when I was done and had them just give it a once over. It cost me less than a lunch for two and my bike was solid.

I learned an awful lot during the "building" process, but those three up there were valuable lessons. I've still got a box full of Park Tools around here somewhere and it's nice knowing that if I ever buy a new crankset or bottom bracket or track cog that I can install it properly. Without ***ing up my bike and, in turn, buying replacement parts because I decided to try and strong-arm it with a pipe wrench.

Also... Craigslist. Sell the TT and go to a bike shop and buy something off the rack. Or, sell your TT, order a NEW TT and take it to a bike shop and have them put it together. Better yet, have it shipped directly to the bike shop so you don't even have a chance to mess with it.