As usual my take is ... different. I don't see this thread as being about driver/biker interaction at all. The o.p. has made us into front row spectators of intimate marital interaction, or non-interaction as it were. The poster who suggested making a teachable moment out of it is IMO on the right track. Physician, heal thyself. Sounds like you have an unhealthy marriage on your hands. Would I be remotely correct in that speculation o.p.? I have encountered way more volatile female drivers than male ones. Being inside a metal cage allows many women the empowerment to interact verbally and in other ways with individuals they would otherwise cross the street to avoid. Just this week my wife and I witnessed a woman at a stoplight screaming at the driver of a small scooter stopped ahead of her. Don't know what he did but she didn't like it one bit. She was f-bombing him to death, but he was trying hard not to react to her. At least she didn't hit him. I have seen a YouTube video of a woman who did just that, after arguing with a motorcyclist for several seconds she just hit the gas and rammed him! Hard! The issue as I see it is that this woman who would roll down her window and engage a total stranger who has insulted her propriety, is the o.p.'s spouse! This forum is not the appropriate place for that avenue of discussion. About the driver/biker thing... yawn... another day at the bike lane.

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