I have struggled to find a comfortable bike with excellent handling and I have similar body proportions to you but am taller. I had a custom steel Commotion Cascada frame made to fit and I could not be happier now. If you do look at Commotion as an option the Nor'wester may be a better model for your riding style. If you want CF you will have to live with a stock frame size intended to fit the masses and not you specifically. I also own a $2800 CF bike that mostly collects dust in the garage now because my steel bike is sooo much more comfortable to ride. CF is sexy looking but for me I found that custom steel outperforms it. I think a lot of people have jumped on the CF frame trend because they mostly want a bike for looks or just are uneducated about how nice a good quality steel frame is.