1) There is always someone faster.
2) Normal people skinny is bike racer fat.
3) Don't draft people without their permission, or acknowledgment at a minimum.
4) To ride faster you must ride faster. One way is to ride with riders who are faster with you, like on the local race ride. Another is to do interval training. See the Race forum workout sticky for ideas. They are geared to power meters, but you can do them with a HRM or even just a stopwatch and perceived effort.
5) It will never get easier, you'll just go faster.