Sorry, there should be no pain in your bird. If your bird is numb or in pain that is not weakness leaving your body it's your body telling you that you are damaging it.

With that being said (as a numb bird kept me off a road bike for some time) I currently ride an ISM Adamo Attack saddle. It's a little on the narrow side, but I am not a big guy in the sense that I am 5'6" and 215lbs. It fits me great, but you need to find what fits you and doesn't cause numb bird syndrome.