So I flipped the stem and put 10mm of spacers below it. WOW! What a difference. I took her for a short spin and now I can barely feel the bike beneath me, the pressure is off my wrists, saddle still comfy, I feel like I have way better control of the bike and no-hands is a cinch. And it doesn't look as bad as I thought it would either! Really, thanks so much for the advice guys!