Originally Posted by BobbyG

I can't remember if you mentioned counseling in any of your post-accident posts; but couples counseling can help. Sometimes people will say things to "strangers" they wouldn't say to their spouses. Also, hearing yourself say things out loud in front of somebody else helps you hear them with "new" ears, as well as hearing your spouse say things with "new" ears. And the impartial perspective of a third party may help frame issues in a way you hadn't considered. And sometimes the concerns or grievances a spouse voices are "safer" straw arguments they point to for other issues they may be too frightened to address.