I don't think this kind of driving behaviour is dependent upon what streets you take. The only way to avoid it altogether is to stay on trails and MUPs, and they have their own issues.
OP, I completely understand. I'd like to say that I could stay in control and not fly off the handle like you did when presented with the same situation.. I'd like to say that, but truth is I probably done the same thing. That worries me, because like you said, it accomplishes nothing except ruin your morning.