I'm about 160-165 nekkid (you do the math for clothed and riding) and have been riding three different sets of 20 front / 24 rear wheels exclusively for about 10 years without ever needing truing, never broken a spoke. The wheels I have are good quality (Reynolds, Mavic) factory built wheels or reputable hand-builts. I have ~ 30mm and 20 mm deep rims with normal width (20 mm?) and a set of 20 mm deep rims with a 23 mm width. Using online wheel builder guidelines, they all say I'm good with the rims and weight, although they say the narrow/shallow rims are marginal, where there's no question I'm OK with the 30mm narrow rims and the 20mm wide rims. Regardless, I haven't had a single issue with any of the wheels.

As for ride quality, I'm interested in hearing what people say. I never notice any "ride quality" issues except that bigger, softer tires are less harsh that narrower, harder tires, regardless of the wheel. I'm not super strong and dont notice any wheel deflection ever.