anytime you got a numbness, there is a little to much pressure there, Now whether it is the Saddle width or the nose of the saddle needs to come down a little.

A little sore after a longer ride is not a big concern, especially as you are getting yourself conditioned to riding.

when i first started back riding, every saddle hurt after a 30-40 min ride , and now that i'm conditioned most saddles i ride with are fine, some more comfortable than others.

but the most comfortable one i have is the Brooks B17. only thing with the Brooks is that you need to be careful with riding in wet weather.