If you are eighteen and you lack the courage, the common sense, and the communication with your mother to resolve this issue .... Seize the moment. Time to step up, my friend. You need to be able to solve problems like this ... trust me life will challenge you a lot more sorely than this. If you cannot marshal your thoughts, rouse your courage, communicate with your mother, and work this out so you can make your own simple and basic life choices .... Then you will be asking your friends this same question 25 years from now.

You have been granted a great opportunity to start living your life. Seize it.