Far and away, the most interesting option to me is to build the bike myself.
Having a Black Mountain gravel frame, I am a BMC homer and would say if his road frame fits your style and body then thatd be an awesome canvas from which to build a bike.
With that said- an All City Mr Pink could be great too.
Mr. Pink | All-City Cycles Columbus Zona tubing, quality carbon fork, room for up to 32mm tires.
The All City Space Horse actually exactly hits your ETT, HTA, STA, and BB numbers mentioned earlier.
Mike at Black Mountain is a really cool guy with a wealth of knowledge. He has a solid product and his deal to install the headset is a steal at the price(s). The bike will build as expected without surprises because he designed it to basically be timeless with nothing proprietary.