Old 03-31-18 | 08:40 AM
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tandempower
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Originally Posted by Alligator
I’ve been trying to be car-lite for a few months now, with the ultimate goal of moving someplace where I can be car-free. I’m slowly getting used to it, but the one thing that is driving me crazy are the people who tell me how impractical I’m being. Or how ridiculous it is to bike everywhere. I constantly get questions like “Well, how are you planning to get to _____?” or “What if you need to ______?” They like to come up with scenarios where I would fail at being car-lite or car-free.

I wish people would just see this as a choice I’m making that doesn’t really affect them. Instead, it would be even better if they said “Sounds challenging! Let me know if I can help you.”
It doesn't go away, but it gets less and you get used to it. At this point, I have people say things like that to me and I just take it as a reminder of how much cultural bias there is toward driving. I had one person recently tell me I am 'extreme,' as if all choices should be measured in relation to how far they are from collective norms. It takes so long to explain to such a person why it's not good to measure choices relative to social norms that it's not worth it. It's easier to just say something like, "I don't view it as extreme but just a prudent choice for my health, budget, and happiness."

The reason why they come up with scenarios for failure is because they view driving as an absolute necessity. Many people in this forum will argue that driving and LCF are just choices, and in fact they are and people should see that, but most people I talk with about it ask questions like, "well what if it rains?," or "what do you do when it's hot?," Then, when I tell them about ponchos and shoes that don't absorb water, and squeezing out socks when they're soaked, and carrying a change of clothes so I don't have to sweat in my work clothes, their eyes get wide with amazement. Then I respond by saying I can't justify spending hundreds of dollars a month to avoid changing clothes or wearing a poncho, and they sort of get that but they don't really want to deal with it cognitively because it implies that they are spending hundreds of dollars a month unnecessarily to avoid changing clothes or to avoid wearing a poncho when it rains.
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