Given your weight and concerns about road quality, I'd go with a custom build with a higher spoke count.

I'm thinking something like DT240, White Ind. or even CK R45 hubs with 24-28 spokes in the front and 28-32 in the back laced to a Hed Belgium or Kinlin rim. I'd skip Pacenti - due to poor experiences in the past.

They will look nice and hold up. They won't be the lightest or most aero or most pro looking, but they will be solid.