Mentally at least you need to budget your time. How much per week goes to your relationship for example?

when work hours climb, you have to cut back on other stuff. As someone who has been married for over 36 years now, I would not cut back on relationship time.

You have decided to work longer hours, understood! Just don’t let the relationship suffer or you will regret later! Choosing a century ride over time with your wife, let that sink in a bit and the answer is clear.