Originally Posted by
seypat
Now we are getting somewhere. I must really be old and boring. I had to look up DH for the meaning. Note to self to keep up with trendy lingo. If you had put those details in earlier, we wouldn't have wasted 5 pages on the subject. Sounds like the problem is the DH. Touchy subject. The best thing you and your DH can do is read the "We are going to yell at you" thread. You can vent all you want here, but the solution can only come from you and the DH. If you can't work it out together, then you need to find separate riding groups, end of story. Or the husband sticks with solo rides. No matter how much you might want him there, if he is ruining your experience, kick him to the curb.(for bike riding) My DW, if that is the term used now and I had the same problem with running/fitness/tri/cycling events for a couple of years. We have different training/race day personalities. She wanted to control my whole race day experience. It got to the point that we would go to a race in separate vehicles. It eventually worked itself out. Now we show up together, but go our separate ways until a few minutes before the start.
You nailed it. Agree, a waste of time. Her gag me, vacuous social media DH reference aka "not so darling husband" who happens to be an insensitive boob and mouth breather by information shared.
OP, you have much bigger problems than your husband dropping you on a group ride. Of course the subliminal subtext would be some weird competitive dynamic you have with him which isn't exactly conducive to blissful matrimony.
Not sure what is worse. your husband would succumb to adolescent alpha male impulses by trying to keep up with the two other guys in your group who didn't give a darn about dropping you...or the fact you didn't tell us it was your husband that dropped you 4 pages into the thread on a 80 mile ride. Sounds like not only does he have issues but you and him do....of course understanding his mentality, I would understand why you would struggle with this scenario. But you didn't fully disclose from the start either. Not a flattering indictment on you either. You opened the thread on it.
Next time how about a new thread title?
"My husband dropped me on a 80 mile group ride" Is he a keeper?...lol.