Bang0Bang00

I like that this question was posed in the context of a marriage.

I sense a disparity theme in the want vs need categories. Having one mountain bike, enables mountain biking. Having two mountain bikes for the same person, crosses into the want category.

A reasonable person could understand a need based purchase. Want purchases cost brownie points.

Of course if you're cycling all the time and highly active or competitive, the want becomes less of a stretch. There's a practicality there.

Just because "I want the pretty n+1" is pretty weak and could be perceived as self centered, inconsiderate, or immature.

Just reverse the person asking and the purchase and it should make it pretty clear (a second diamond wedding ring? What are you trying to tell me honey?)

Part of being in a relationship is the challenge that comes with it. Through embracing that challenge, we grow. But it all comes down to transparency. Honesty really is the best policy. Unless you want a divorce. Then lie like a mutha f-er.