Originally Posted by Maelochs

Right? We are busy thinking about ourselves ... what do we think they are thinking about? us? No ... they are thinking about Themselves ... just like we are.

Life gets a Lot easier once we realize that we are pretty normal. Yeah, sure , we are all unique snowflakes ... but we are 99 percent identical and one percent original. If we are thinking about what other people think about us ... so are they. And none of us are even willing to look at one another, for fear another person we see us looking. By the time the tiny amount of information we are willing to accept gets through our filters .... a superhero comic book looks more like reality than the pictures of "reality" most of us carry in our heads.

Trying to be positive ... OP, 90 percent of what you feel is All about you. if you had complete confidence you could ride your bike in a pink sequinned G-string and high heels and hang your groceries in leopard-print handbags from your handlebars, and most people would admire your style. And you could dress and act like absolutely everyone else around you, and if you have no confidence you will still feel inferior and imagine everyone is putting you down.

We are all scared little kids pretending to be adults ... until we figure that out and stop being scared.

I figured out a while back that if I go wherever I go and act like I belong there, people will treat me like I belong there.

if you go shopping with an attitude like "I love shopping on my bike, and it is so good for my mental and physical health and I Feel Great!" most people will smile at you. Try it.