Umm... what parts are you trying to mix, are they MEANT to mate with each other?
Old style headset has big nut on top that goes on the threaded tubevsAhead style newer design stem that clamps on onto threadless stem
Afaik there are adapters available to allow one to swing either way.But filing threads anything will make diameter smaller & I can't ever handfile anything perfectly round, that's why I'd love owning a lathe... etc etc