Ha! I was the same way for 28 years. Then two things happened. 1. My city got bike lanes and greenways everywhere so i no longer feel compelled to keep up with inner city traffic for safety reasons, and 2. I got rid of all the road bikes. I still crack 20+ mph here and there but waaaaaay more chill for the most part. Part of getting old I think. Turned 60 in April. New outlook on life!