regarding "judgement" my Sister once cautioned me "don't take any unnecessary risks". lucky to survive my 20s, the older I get, the easier it is to decide what risks are unnecessary. it's been interesting watching my 21 & 23 yr old adult children make their choices. it's tuff tho, cuz despite all the coaching in the world, by me, their choices, are out of my control. I try to balance terror & letting go ...